Child asleep, but you can't sleep

It’s 3 am, your child is fast asleep, but you are lying in bed wide awake. You used to be such a good sleeper, and now that you are a parent, you lost your ability to sleep, even though you are so tired all the time! What is happening?

Here are some of the reasons why you may suffer from poor sleep as a parent. None of them has to do with your child's sleep.


New moms' biological sleep patterns do not return to normal until about three months after giving birth. Adjusting lifestyle and sleeping arrangements can alleviate sleep problems caused by hormonal fluctuations.

Postpartum depression

Inability to sleep can be both a cause and a result of postpartum depression. Recurrent episodes of insomnia is a good reason to get a mental health check up.

​Excessive worrying

Being a parent can be overwhelming, especially when it's your first time. If excessive worrying is keeping you awake, learning to work with intrusive thought and overthinking will help.


When you are overtired, it can feel impossible to "switch off" at night. If your inability to sleep is caused by overtiredness, your rest needs to become a priority, at least until you get your sleep back on track.

Sleeping when your child sleeps

Common advice, but keep in mind that daytime napping can be a reason for middle-of-the-night wakefulness. If this is your case, tweaking your schedule may be all you need to resolve your insomnia.

​Sleep problems unrelated to parenting

Sometimes parents’ inability to sleep has nothing to do with parenting whatsoever. Read more about adult insomnia.

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